For many of us 'I'm sorry' is a painful admission of a fault or imperfection. It implies that 'I was wrong', and that is the part that seems to activate our defences and keep us from speaking."
But 'I'm sorry' doesn't need to be a vindication for one side or another. It's far more effective in making things right again than in showing who was wrong. Still, the words come hard, as if saying them reveals some weakness, some vulnerability.
Just a little thought on the matter tells us the opposite is true. Being vulnerable and able to say 'I was wrong' is one of the surest signs of strength. It informs others that we are sensitive to their pain or their mood. It's far better than puttingup walls and trying to maintain the myth of being perfect. The magic words 'I'm sorry' have unlimited power to heal and restore."
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